Losing The Emotional Weight

This  picture rocked my world and led me to reevaluate my thoughts.

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Here I was surrounded by amazing souls, learning amazing new things, and I adore the people in this picture but all I could see was me, the fat ugly me. When this picture was taken I was at my highest weight ever. I had ballooned up to 224 lbs. I thought that all my hatred for my body was about the number on the scale or the fat on my body. But looking back over the years I have always hated my body. Whether I was an anorexic 95lbs or 224lbs all I saw was flaws and fat.

These thoughts are not new to me. I have thought I was fat most of my life. In his picture I weigh about 110lbs. and I never stopped thinking if only I would lose 20 more pounds then I would be perfect. Sit-ups were a drug and food an indulgence.

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I am seven months pregnant and I am disgusted at how fat I am all the time. Many nights are spent with me laying in bed crying.

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I have a ten month old in this picture, I am with my Aunt Billie, but my thoughts tell me I am huge, unloveable, gross, that I don’t measure up.

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Through the years my body has gained and lost hundreds of pounds but what has never been lost is the emotional weight I have carried. I have either starved or feed my emotions for as long as I can remember. I have never fully allowed myself to be at peace with and love the body I have at the time. That was until I worked with Brooke Castillo and started doing The Work by Byron Katie. Byron Katie says, “The body is never our problem. Our problem is always a thought we innocently believe.” I love this because I didn’t set out to hate my body, I just believed my thoughts about my body. I didn’t realize that my body was just a physical manifestation of not being tuned into me. The problem was I was believing my thoughts and I wasn’t and hadn’t made me and my health a priority in my life.

Once I realized that my body didn’t hate itself, it was totally cool with itself, everything changed. The only problem with my body was the thoughts I was choosing to think about it. And I could change that.

So how did I change this?

Instead of judging my body I just started saying I have a body. I started to recognize all the amazing things that it was able to do.

Instead of thinking my body was a curse, I started to view this body as an amazing gift from a loving Creator. This body is the gift I was given when I agreed to come here. If this body is a gift that I was given how was I treating it? How was I taking care of the gift that had helped me travel this world, that carried and nourished three of my babies?   I screamed at it, punished it, and treated it no better than a piece of garbage, starving or bingeing it for the last 25 years.  This was not a painless recognition. This required me to sit with all the emotions that came up and believe me there was a lot.

After the dust had settled and I cleared off the shelves that were once filled with negative thoughts I realized I had to start creating new thoughts. I had to accept the body I had right now, in this moment. I had to be grateful and loving towards it. I had to take care of it. Rejecting myself no longer worked. Hating my body rarely made me thin and if it did it was because I was starving my body and that never brought the results my soul craved.

So now when I am hungry I check to see if I am feeling the sensation of hunger or if there is a need or emotion I am trying to avoid. Does my body want fuel or does my mind want to escape into an organic bag of chips? I don’t care how healthy a food is, it has calories and if you eat a bag of organic chips you will gain weight. I eat super healthy yet I am still overweight.

Next, I went to the gym. This gift needed to be strong, not thin but strong. I am surprised at how powerful working out makes me feel. I also decided that working out was a gift I was giving back to my body. This was self care at its finest. The minute I changed my thought from I have to work out, to working out is something I do for me, EVERYTHING changed! From the minute I put my shoes on, it is about self care. I get into my car put on a podcast while I am heading to the gym, at the gym I care for my body, and then on the way home another podcast or I download my thoughts into a voice memo while I am driving, this cares for my mind. I now start every day doing something for me. I start 5 days out of the week caring for the one and only body I will get in this life.  not only do I feel better emotionally and physically, I have more to give to everyone in my life.

I may never have a super thin body, my natural body may be curvy, and I am okay with that. What I am not okay with is the 3 tons of emotional  weight I had been carrying around or the lie that I am a victim of my genetics/health problems. I am losing the emotional weight and you know a cool side effect is of losing all this mental weight, I am losing weight in a body that I love, accept, and am grateful for as it is right now.  Hating my body never changed it, but loving it is changing it a lot.

This is the picture I took today.  I weigh in at 212lbs. I have lost over 8 inches but I am able to look back at each of these pictures and see the story behind them. I am able to relive the memories, I am able to look into the face of my Aunt Billie, who no longer has a physical body and see a beautiful picture of us when we were together with no judgments as to how my body looks. Daily I am losing the emotional weight, I am in love with this magnificent gift and I cherish it every second of everyday.

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You too, can lose the emotional weight. You can love the body you are in. I can help you do that. Changing your thoughts not only changes your life, it can change your body. Lose the emotional weight and the rest will follow.

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